The Boys Town National Hotline is for kids, teens and parents who need help. Most importantly, the Hotline is here for YOU!
If you're in need of support, guidance, or simply someone to talk to, the Boys Town National Hotline is here for you. The hotline is available to provide support for individuals of all ages, whether you're a child, teen, or parent, offering assistance when you need it most. Last year alone, the Hotline responded to nearly 100,000 calls and helped prevent over 400 suicides, providing crucial resources and assistance during times of crisis.
Here are the Top 10 presenting problems encountered in 2024:
I keep pushing my suicidal thoughts to the back of my mind. Why do they keep popping up again?
If you're having thoughts of suicide or feeling overwhelmed by depression, it's important to talk about it, even though it can be difficult. Suicidal thoughts often come with other struggles, like mental health issues, bullying, or substance use, and it's crucial to get help before things escalate. Look out for warning signs such as talking about suicide, feeling hopeless, or giving away belongings. If you or someone you know is struggling, don't keep these thoughts a secret. Reach out to a trusted adult, counselor, or hotline—help is available, and you deserve to feel better.
2. Anxiety
I have social anxiety that causes anxiety twitching, it is so embarrassing. How do I calm myself to act normal around others?
It's perfectly normal to feel anxiety when you are going through stressful times. But when you start to feel like your anxiety is unbearable and overwhelming, it may be time to take a break and take care of yourself. Managing stress and the resulting anxiety means using good coping skills to get through the present moment.
3. Depression
My depression makes my life feel hopeless and unbearable. How do I keep going?
It’s easy to keep your feelings buried deep inside and just hope they go away. But it’s important for you to talk to an adult you trust. Explain what’s going on and ask if they’ve noticed some of the same symptoms in you lately. Often just talking about your feelings and sorting out how to handle your stress helps a lot.
My relationships only last a week or two, others seem to have happy long-term relationships, what am I doing wrong?
At the start of a relationship, things like shared interests, humor, and appearance might draw us to someone, but deeper connections come from understanding who they truly are. Healthy relationships require trust, respect, and time to build. A strong relationship allows both people to see each other's strengths, weaknesses, and vulnerabilities. To maintain a solid connection, focus on building trust, communicating openly about feelings, setting healthy boundaries, and encouraging each other.
My parents don’t approve of me and we can’t agree on things. Is there any way to get along?
Building a stronger, more respectful parent-child relationship requires effort and understanding from both sides. Kids can show maturity by being dependable—setting a curfew and consistently sticking to it helps build trust. If plans change or you're running late, checking in and keeping parents informed demonstrates responsibility. Parents, in turn, can recognize these actions as signs of growth and flexibility. Open communication, like chatting when you get home instead of heading straight to your room, creates connection.
6. Loneliness
I find talking to people is exhausting, yet I want someone to care about me. What do I do?
When emotions feel overwhelming, like being stuck in a maze, it’s important to pause and take control. Start by taking deep breaths and identifying what you're feeling and what’s triggering it. Replace negative thoughts with positive ones, like “I can do this” or “This won’t last forever.” Visualize yourself working through the situation and think of small steps you can take to move forward. If it still feels too hard, don’t hesitate to ask for help from friends, family, a trusted adult, or a professional.
7. Friendships
I have been having problems with my friends, I am not sure if they like me anymore. How do I change so they will like me again?
Making friends starts with simple steps. Show you're approachable with friendly body language—smile, make eye contact, and stand tall. Start conversations by finding common ground, like shared interests or experiences, or bring up easy topics like the weather or an upcoming event. Get involved in activities, clubs, or volunteer work to meet new people and create opportunities to connect. Practice talking to others regularly, even with quick greetings, to build confidence
8. Self-Injury
I was 6 months clean from self-harm, last night, I broke that. I’m scared I’m going to cut myself again, please help.
Self-injury often stems from emotional pain, feeling numb, or a lack of control, but it's important to recognize it's a sign that healthier coping methods are needed. While it may seem like a way to deal with feelings, self-harm can cause physical harm, isolation, and guilt. It's crucial to let go of the need to control everything and allow emotions to surface. Reaching out for support from friends, family, or professionals can help you find healthier ways to cope. You've already shown courage by acknowledging the problem—now take the next step toward healing and remember that with time and effort, things can improve.
Sometimes my siblings are unbearably loud, and this stresses me out and makes me yell, then everyone is upset. How do I control my temper?
Anger is a natural emotion, but if it starts affecting your relationships, including with siblings, it's important to manage it. Pay attention to your body when you feel angry, like clenching fists or breathing heavily, and recognize your triggers. Counteract these reactions by taking deep breaths, counting to three, or loosening your muscles. Calm your mind by pausing negative thoughts and asking if the situation is really worth getting upset over. Before speaking, take a moment to think and express your feelings calmly. If needed, walk away for a brief time to cool off, then return to the conversation when you're ready.
10. Abuse
My parents are verbally abusive, they tell me I won’t be anything but a loser and a failure in this world. How do I get support when I have none at home?
Abuse can be physical (hitting, kicking), sexual (inappropriate touching), neglectful (lack of food, shelter), or emotional (insulting, belittling). If you're experiencing abuse, talk to a trusted adult like a parent, teacher, counselor, or family friend, or reach out to the Boys Town National Hotline at 800-448-3000. Reporting abuse may lead to an investigation to ensure safety, which could include counseling or, in some cases, removal from the home. Remember, abuse is never your fault, and help is always available.
Discover more about the Boys Town National Hotline at boystown.org/hotline. For questions or concerns, reach out via email at hotline@boystown.org. Parents can find helpful advice and resources at boystown.org/parenting, while teens can access support at yourlifeyourvoice.org.
